Just when the caterpillar thought it’s life was over, it turned into a butterfly
When my marriage came to an abrupt end on Valentine’s Day a few years ago, it felt like a tsunami had hit me and my whole life was in one moment, destroyed. I was in shock and disbelief as I watched the waves effortlessly melt my sandcastles of dreams. Each day held acute pain each day as new realizations would hit of what would ‘never be the same again’. I felt betrayed. Shamed. Hurt. Angry. Righteous. Tired.
Tired of where we had been for the past few years in our relationship.
And tired of wearing a thick cloak of hurt and blame every day.
With three small children needing me …. and WATCHING me, I knew I had to make very quick decisions on WHO I wanted to be with my ‘circumstance’.
I realized that nothing that I ever ‘taught’ them in life would ever matter. They would form their blueprints of understanding on life, love, endings and resilience based on what I demonstrated.
I needed to choose who I was going to be.
What I discovered was this:
The ONLY thing in life that we ever get to choose is how we BE with ‘what is’.
Circumstances, situations and experiences will happen. It’s called Life.
Who we choose to be is totally ours to decide.
“I’ve often referred to Farhana as the Sage of Enlightened Endings, and The Modern Day Buddha. She is inexplicably wise beyond her years and sees the gift in EVERY circumstance” - Colette Kenney, Relationship Expert
Enlightened Divorce Coaching
I base my coaching on my book Thank You for Leaving Me : Finding Divinity and Healing in Divorce and from my Enlightened Divorce Toolkit
Taking in either of those resources (in that order) would be quickest way for you to achieve a paradigm shift and let healing take you. Yes. Let healing take you. It will, if you let it.
For some of you, that will be enough.
For others, you may benefit from working with a coach either 1+1 or in a group coaching environment.
We can do either… I am partial to group coaching environments myself because I learned so much more in the company of others who were also willing to go deep.
Now, I gotta tell you – I am selective with who I work with only because I am a high achiever type and want to make sure we are fully aligned for success.
Selecting me as your coach will probably not work for those who like and are attached to their story, enjoy victimhood, will ‘never’ forgive, or feel that life has basically shafted them.
On the other hand, if you are ready to be free from victim/villain and are willing to see that perhaps everyone was playing the perfect role for the perfect outcome (as inconceivable as it may sound right now) - you don’t need to be there yet… just be willing, then we may be a fit
If you are willing to take full responsibility for the way your life is now (and was during the marriage) then we are in good form to work together
And, if you are willing to be truthful about the stuff that doesn’t look so good AND also about your brilliance, your gifts and your big ginormous dreams then we will have a great time working together.
“Farhana is a lifesaver! If you’re trying to pick up the pieces after a divorce or break up, Farhana helps repair your tender heart and trust in yourself again. The support and love Farhana gives is the most honest and comforting I’ve known. If you want to rebuild a wonderful life for yourself, then Farhana is your angel of light, even in the darkest of times.” ~Dr. Anna Michelle, Founder of Healing Heart Solutions
Our Sacred Exchange
LASER – 3 x 30 minute sessions for $450 (best deal e-vah!)
GOING DEEP – 1 hr sessions for $275 each
Use the Connect link if you wanted to be considered for the next group coaching.
If coaching is not in the cards for you right now, but you would still like some support, I recommend:
- Join us on our Thank You for Leaving Me Facebook Page and pose a question on the page (not in a private message)
- Read Thank You for Leaving Me: Finding Divinity and Healing in Divorce - and take notes about your own insights and aha’s. Warning: You will be tempted to read the book in one sitting. If you can’t resist the urge then come back and read it a second time with your journal and pen in hand.
- There is a great digital program that I have put together -The Enlightened Divorce Toolkit -it’s pretty comprehensive and has a ton of great bonuses too
- Listen to these interviews I have done here... these are content rich interviews and I promise you will get the nuggets that will serve you.
PS – I have been working on something pretty exciting… Spirit spoke to me on a flight and has helped me create a whole new program. I am going to launch it in a couple of months. It’s a 6 month intensive group coaching with daily access to me. Yes, daily. I am only taking 10 people in the class. If you want to know about the details before it goes out, fill out the form here and I will make sure you get the deets first.