I Have Already Won


ChampagneMidnight marked the end of the voting cycle for the Next Top Spiritual Author competition.  In the final days I noticed that there was no panic... no rush to push through last minute voters. Oh sure, I continued to promote - that’s just being smart - but there was no panic in my promotion. No desperation in my requests.  I was at peace.

The judges won't make their announcement for a few days but, I knew I had done the best I knew how in terms of promotion and, I had already won in ways that were immeasurable.  I have formed new friendships and alliances from would be ‘competitors’ and challenged the modern day thinking of competition vs collaboration.

Chris Cade subscribes to a greater way of being and a conscious way in which to do business. He created a collaborative team and, to my good fortune, he invited me to be a part of it. And in this collaboration, I experienced the utopia of what my heart believes in how business can be conducted.

I was late in submitting my book proposal for the competition because I felt ‘stuck’. Chris sent encouraging emails chipping away at my wall of fear. He even offered to talk to me from his trip in Bermuda to help me get over my barriers.

I had not set up my blog and they encouraged me to get one started ASAP. In fact, Thea Westra sent me information outlining why it was so important and then offered me no latitude in my excuses (and full access to her brilliance) – that is one helluva coach frankly!

Matt Welsh and Scott Brandon Hoffman, like me, were swirling with big events occurring in their personal lives but their continuous resilience and fortitude took away my excuses to ‘show up’.

It’s hard to play small when you are among such giants.

It will be a few days before the judges announce their selections for Round 3.

Winning is in the eye of the beholder.

And I am holding the blue ribbon.





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Farhana DhallaFarhana Dhalla is the ultimate ‘go to’ person for shifting perspective. Her philosophy of seeing that everything is done FOR you versus to you is the paradigm shift that helps people unlock the gifts of their situation and liberate them into living more enriching lives. Along with being a mom to 3 expressive children, she is an Enlightened Divorce Coach, Speaker and Author of the #1 International Best Selling Book Thank You for Leaving Me.


  1. I just want to give you HUGE HUG :)

  2. Farhana,

    you truly ARE a winner, regardless of the outcome. So much can be gained from our journeys, some of which tends to get ‘lost’ when we focus so much on the end result rather than on all the ‘things’ that happened along the way.

    I truly commend you for getting out there, taking action and makin’ it happen!

    Woo Hoo, GO YOU!

    All my best,


    • Thanks Bryan…you are right – this was all about taking action. Man, the learning curve has been steep but I have loved every minute of it. Seriously…I have to remind myself to sleep, I am hardly ever tired. It has been exhilarating. Thanks for the support sweets!

  3. Farhana,

    Thank you for this great post…I thought I was the only one going through personal upheaval during this competition! Energy is definitely swirling…good luck to you!

    • Personal upheaval during this past little while is one I have heard from many people. For me, it was an exercise to get into deeper truth and walk my talk. Good luck to you too Theresa

  4. Thank you for your kind words, Farhana! I am blessed to have you in my life, and I am grateful to have impacted you in such meaningful ways.

    Wishing you the best as a Top Spiritual Author, regardless of whether that’s an official title or just one we hold in our hearts for you.

  5. Love this post Farhana! I really admired your ability to collaborate. I’ve never before seen such a phenomenon in a competition… And your ability to compete with such grace demonstrates star quality! You’re amazing and you’re just getting ready to take off, sister friend! You are a Top Spiritual Author! Love you!

    • Thank you Lorna…It was and still an exhilarating experience. With much appreciation for your comments here and your ongoing support xoF

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